5 Sustainable Self Care Tips I Learned at Villa Royale
Self care has never been a high priority of mine. While I understood the value of it, self care always felt like a luxury I couldn’t afford to have. As an entrepreneur so much of my life is spend rushing from this to that, staying up late and pushing myself to keep everything going - I never felt like I had the time or the luxury to sit down and think about myself. Sound familar?
After a month of cross country driving during our summer road trip, the team and I had the pleasure of spending a few days at the gorgeous Villa Royale in Palm Springs. I hadn’t planned it to be a self care retreat, in fact I had every intention of continuing to work while however, being in this luxe environment forced me to slow down for a bit and discover that there truly is something to be said about taking time to be “present” and enjoying the little things.
In today’s ultra-busy world, it’s easy to feel like we don’t have the time to slow down. Between busy work and home lives, taking time for self-care can feel like an impossible task. If you’re struggling to make time for yourself, here are five things I learned at Villa Royale that I plan to incorporate into my everyday life and that you can incorporate into yours too.
Villa Royale is a true paradise and every morning I couldn't help but feel grateful to be there. Without even thinking about it I started each morning thinking about all the things I was grateful for and consequently I started the day in a great mood. Granted it’s easy to think of all the things you're thankful when you wake up in paradise but now that I’m back home and getting back to reality I’ve tried to keep the habit going. Sure, sometimes I forget but whenever I say at least 5 things I’m grateful for, I can honestly say it puts me in a better headspace. When I feel great I can give to others and be kinder, show compassion, love and in general be more calm, present, and trusting towards others.
find your thing
Self care is more than face masks, burning sage, and meditation. Self care is anything that positively feeds your soul and makes you happy. It can be dancing around your apartment listening to music, cooking your favorite meal, traveling, reading a good book, anything. In order to sustainably incorporate self care into your life (i.e you do it longer than a few weeks), it’s important that you find your thing/the things you’ll actually stick to. If you’re not sure where to start, here are a few ideas to get you going.
Dressing up, or putting on makeup (if that’s important to you)
Listening to music
Listening to a podcast
Write down your thoughts
I’ve never been one to keep a journal however, I started one while on the road trip and I have to say- I love it. I’ve always associated the journaling with Lizzie McGuire (do you remember that show?) or some other cheesy Disney character but I’ll admit, I was wrong. Journaling your thoughts doesn’t have to be as cheesy. It’s about writing whatever you feel inspired to write—your thoughts, your dreams, frustrations —pretty much whatever you have going on in your head. I’ve really loved it for goal planning and remembering accomplishments and good times. It’s easy to go through life and look back and not remember all the little things that got you to where you are now. I like the idea of being able to look back and experience the process.
I’m really into these ethically made notebooks!
find fun ways to Exercise
I have a love hate relationship with exercise. Don’t we all. While I know I feel a million times better when I exercise regularly, the gym can be so boring. One thing I loved about Villa Royale is that they have three pools. I spent the majority of our stay in the pool swimming and I couldn’t have been more happy. Living in Portland there aren’t may pool opportunities however I’m a huge fan of local Portlander, Kait Hurley’s Move and Mediate app. While I can’t say I’ll go to the gym everyday I can definitely press play every now and then.
Disconnect -Even if it’s only for an hour.
I’ve always heard people talk about taking a digital detox but it never felt applicable to me. My life and my job revolves around the internet and social media so disconnecting never felt like an option. I originally put my phone down to hop in the pool for a few minutes and ended up totally forgetting about it. When I remember to check it hours later, nothing had changed. I had a few Instagram alerts but the world didn’t catch on fire or end because I wasn’t glued to my phone.
Invest in your sleep
Says the girl who frequently pulls all nighters. Between the heat and swimming all day I was popped by the end of each night. Normally I’d lay in bed and scroll on Instagram until I fell asleep but after showering I climbed into bed with no phone, and let the night lull me to sleep. I got the best sleep of my life at Villa Royale so now my new rules for sleeping are:
No electronic devices before bed. - I’m signing off at10pm. (that’s still a little late but hey, it’s progresss.)
Tidy up before bed - There’s something so relaxing about going to bed and waking up to a clean room.
Make your bedroom your favorite room in the house - Your bedroom should be your sanctuary. Fill it with the things you like and make you feel cozy and safe.
If you’re feeling burnt or stressed out, try taking a little time to focus on YOU. I’ve found that in order to be the best I can be, both professionally and personally, I have to put myself first sometimes and that’s totally okay. Thank you to our friends at Provenance Hotels and Villa Royale for hosting us.